Just a reminder that if you have BIG goals…

You can expect to feel BIG emotions. 

Don’t let that stop you.  

When I was going for partnership, I was feeling a LOT.

• Fear of rejection.
• Anxiety about whether I was good enough.
• Awkwardness in dreaded networking events. 
• Etc. etc. etc. 

I mad...

Quick question…

Does your firm know you want that promotion? 

Or are you keeping silent about your ambitions for the time being? 

Perhaps because: 

• You worry you don’t have what it takes. 
• You assume your hard work will speak for itself.  
• You don’t want to be presumptuous by bringing it up ...

If I could only give ONE piece of advice about how to change your day-to-day experiences at work and in life, it would be this:

• The way that you habitually THINK ABOUT yourself and TALK TO yourself, will determine the quality of your life. 

Most of us are taught to chase or change around...

 Have you ever been given that advice?

That you should try to ‘care’ a bit less about your job. 

The advice seems sensible … but feels a bit off.

Here’s my argument for ignoring it. 

The advice is well intentioned. 

It’s usually given by someone who sees that you’re feeling stressed or anxious....

Hear me out...

How much time do you spend wondering whether you’re ‘good enough’? 

Well, I’m here to tell you that NOBODY CARES about that. 

Hear me out. 

What the hell does ‘good enough’ even mean? 

In my legal career, some people thought I was brilliant, some that I was ‘average’....

Do you struggle with being indecisive? 

• Should I buy that thing or the other thing?
• Should I say something or not?  
• Should I stay or leave my current job?

Perhaps you try to make your decision by thinking through every possible eventuality, but instead of feeling clear, you’re left feeling ...

Just a quick reminder that if you struggle with self-doubt or imposter syndrome, there is almost ZERO benefit to comparing yourself to your colleagues. 

Your brain will just get to work pointing out all the ways they are smarter or more confident or ‘further along’ than you. That’s what brains do. ...

Do you worry about being seen as ‘arrogant’? 

You want to be more confident at work …. but not OVER-confident. 

You’d like to find the perfect balance between showing-up as an assertive, self-confident person AND being viewed as humble, self-aware and NEVER one to brag. 

I’m exhausted just thinki...

Do you ever avoid giving ‘difficult’ feedback because you feel bad? 

It feels awkward or uncomfortable. 

You prefer to correct the work yourself and move on. 

Or perhaps, you try to give the feedback, but end-up talking around it – because you’re worried they’ll get upset. You don’t want to be ‘m...

Just a quick reminder that hierarchies at work are ARTIFICIAL and CONSENSUAL. 

No-one you work with has any ACTUAL power over you. 

• They might have a different title. 
• They might give and review your work
• They might make decisions about your progress at that firm,

BUT…

They have no ACTUAL ...